How often do you have thoughts like…
I wish I spent more time with friends, or
I’d like to go out to dinner more often, or
I really want to try that circus class I’ve heard about?
These kinds of things cross my mind and a few of them hang on. I might sit on the couch and wish, somewhat wistfully, that I had a friend coming over or maybe a dinner party to go to or a Saturday afternoon get together with kids and snacks on the books. The next thought might sound like “Wouldn’t that be nice?” and “I wonder if she’ll invite me…” and “I really enjoyed that game night I went to three years ago…” It’s not unusual for me to have urges to do fun stuff with a person I like. It’s also not unusual for me to not do anything about it.
A few weeks ago, one of my friends, who keeps showing me how to be a really, really wonderful friend, decided that she’d like to have a weekend away with some special people. She invited me and a handful of ladies to join her at a house for a weekend of good food, friendship, nature and hot tubbing. There were even some board games involved. It was perfect and I thought, “wow, it would never occur to me to do that.” Soon after that demonstration of what nice friends might do, an awesome woman that I work with decided she wanted more of a sense of community at work so she put together a potluck at her house and invited us to come. We had a blast. I finally had the chance to really visit and get to know some of the people I’ve worked with for over 3 years. And more than that, I got to observe how each of these gals had an idea, listened to it, and made it happen. They made some effort and put together a wonderful time for themselves and those around them. Beautiful.
I’m coming to see these urges, ideas or creative sparks as messages that we just can’t ignore. These desires, the ones that feel open and curious and playful, can make life more fun, can help us to feel more connected to those we love and they just might be a really big part of discovering who we are. When we practice yoga, we know that it’s really important to discover who we are because it’s this process that can help us uncover our deepest purpose for being on the planet, our role or dharma. So, next time I get a twinkle that reminds me of something fun I’d like to try or a person I want to hang out with, I’m going to do something about it. I’m going to make a little effort, and see what happens. I think it’s going to be fun.
Amanda teaches yoga movement, breath and meditation in Austin, TX and online. She offers individual sessions to those interested in developing a daily home practice. More information is available under “classes” tab or contact her by clicking HERE.